| November 2009
November Tuneup –Tuneup Your Contribution
This month we will be focusing on the power of giving back and contributing to something bigger than ourselves – be it in our family, with our friends or within our community.
Our focus will be on Success for Teens, which encourages young people to step into their greatness. Please check the events page of the Lobella website to see when a November Tuneup event will be held near you!
Upcoming Tuneups:
December - New Year New You
January - Feng Shui
Lobella Reclaim Your Life Event
Lake Las Vegas, NV
Limited to 50 women
January 29-31
$995.00 (includes food, speakers and activities)
To learn more about upcoming events, please visit our events page:
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November Tuneup
Loren Slocum
Dear Friends,
Welcome to the November newsletter! I am so happy that this month’s newsletter and Tuneup events are dedicated to one of the subjects closest
to my heart – contribution.
We all know that it is “important to give back to the community”, but do we ever ask ourselves, why? Why is it important to contribute? Think about a world where no one helped out anyone else, where no one smiled at a stranger, where we ignored each other’s problems – sounds like a pretty crummy world, doesn’t it?
Now, think about how happy it makes you when a stranger offers to help you, when someone holds a door or an elevator for you, or when you get a random smile from a stranger on the street. These are the small things that make us happy – imagine if we all went out of our way to help and support one another in these small ways – what an incredible world that would be!
You never know where one decision will take you. Twenty years ago this month, on Thanksgiving, a friend asked me to join her in delivering food to the homeless. I decided to join her and that night of contribution changed my life forever. You see, that night, through that simple act of contribution
I met the love of my life, my husband and partner, Shore.
Service has always been a huge part of my life; growing up my father was in the Lions Club and he always impressed upon us the importance of giving back. Some of my fondest memories of my childhood are going door-to-door as a family selling light bulbs and brooms to help support the Lions Club.
As I can personally attest, contribution can easily fit in to your family life and relationships. The people that you love and connect with should be contributors like you. Make contributing a bonding activity and you will have memories that you cherish forever while contributing to making the world
a better place.
Stay true to who you are,
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| Relationship Tuneup
Susan Baker, Highlands Ranch, CO Facilitator
Give Until It Feels Good
This month our focus for Lobella is on contribution and what better relationship to focus on contributing to than on the relationship you share with your significant other. This may be a new way to think about giving to your love partner but I know from personal experience that when you give without thinking about what you will get back the rewards can be great.
Have you ever been guilty, as I have, of only giving when you are getting back, especially emotionally? Maybe you wait to plan a date night because you are tired of having to do all the planning? (Not that I would know anything about that! LOL) Somehow you think that you are punishing your partner by not giving to them. Who really suffers when we withhold out goodness???- WE DO! It is so easy to focus on what our partner doesn't do for us.
Let's change the tide this month and focus on what we can do to contribute to your partner. Start each day by focusing on all the things that your partner does for you or all the things they do to support you - not to keep score, but to help you get focused on all the good they do for you. Then, in this good mind set, think about how you can contribute to your partner today. Here are some ideas- you can do something extra for them that they aren't expecting. In my house that may be making a special meal that I know my husband likes or putting on his favorite movie and letting him watch it or sitting with him to watch a football game.
Think of three things you love about your partner and write three love notes to him tucking them in little places where he will find them throughout the week. Meet your partner at the door with a big smile and a big kiss - I try to be as excited as our golden retriever is to see my husband. I wag my "tail" and come tearing through the house to greet him when he comes home. We both get a good laugh and he feels like a winner!
Find ways to help your partner feel successful in his relationship with you! Verbally acknowledge him for all the wonderful things he does for you. If you have children make sure you acknowledge all the wonderful things he does as a father. Make sure you praise him for ANYTHING he does right and keep quiet about things that aren't just as you want them to be. I once had a mentor that said that if she was out at a meeting for the night and came home and all the dishes were still on the table but her husband cleared off the salt shaker she would praise him for clearing off the salt shaker. (Now that is a good woman!) To take that a little further you also have to let go of any frustration you have about what your spouse doesn't do. This letting go can be part of your contribution to the relationship this month.
There are millions of ways that you can contribute to your partner or significant other that I am sure I haven't even thought of. This month if you find a great way to contribute to your partner email me and I will share it with all of the Lobella community. My email is Susan.Baker@LoBella.com. I would LOVE to hear from you!
Contribution is a very spiritual concept and you will find that whatever you give will come back to you ten fold. Give this month until it feels good!
Self Care Tuneup
Jane Ashley, Guilford, CT Facilitator
This month, take some time to connect with two people every day, each week Monday through Friday. On your way to and from work or dropping off your child, make a quick phone call. Send an email or a text to someone you haven't connected with personally in awhile. If you reach out to two people per day (no need to even have them call you back - just leave a message), you will have connected with 40 of your contacts this month.
Sending a message to these people in your life, even if they are just acquaintances, sends a positive message out and will help you create a great feeling within yourself. This level of personal outreach will allow you to feel connected to the world and get outside of your self for awhile. We all appreciate getting a message and hearing that someone was just thinking about us. By giving this gift to your friends and contacts this month, you will truly nurture yourself. |
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Parenting Tuneup
Danielle Lansburgh, Miami, FL Facilitator
Empowering Books for Children
With the holidays coming and a new year just around the corner, I’ve decided to share with you some of my and my children’s favorite books which you may want to add to your holiday shopping list. Each book listed below has a empowering life lesson for children and adults alike.
Parenting tip; Add a few of these books to your home library and take time each night to read one with your child. This activity will ensure that each day you and your child receive and share a positive, life enhancing message.
Our list consist of three books written by Dr. Wayne Dyer:
1)Incredible You
2)Unstoppable Me*
3)It's Not What You've Got
Others written by various authors are as follows:
4)Secret of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman
5)How Full is Your Bucket for Kids by Tom Rath and Mary Reckmeyer*
6)The Fish who Could Eat Fruit by Kathleen Stefancin M.S., R.D.
7)The 72 Names of God for Kids by Yehuda Berg with Dev Ross
8)Buddah at Bedtime by Dharmachari Nagaraja*
9)The Secret of Water by Masaru Emoto*
And, the following books are written by Brian D. McClure and discuss a theme of interconnection and oneness. Each story explains a simple truth to which we all can relate.
10)The Bubble*
11)The Rain Drop*
12)The Sun and the Moon*
13)The Meal
15)The Ants
15)The Birds and the Frogs
Happy Reading!!!!!
*Highly recommended
Fashion Tuneup
Stephanie Jackson, Bainbridge Island, WA Facilitator
What to Wear to a Holiday Party
On one hand the holidays can be exciting, yet, on the other hand, they can be panic-inducing. Let me help you with some suggestions for what to wear to a holiday party this season.
Office/Work Party
This is not time to sport some major cleavage. Try your classic pant suit and pair it up with a silk camisole or give your jacket a rest and add a luxurious wrap. A little black dress can be worn to the office with boots and transformed to party-worthy attire with peep-toe shoes and a metallic clutch.
Another tip... Stay away from the karaoke machine!
Friendly Gatherings
So expensive dinners & packed restaurants are not your thing this holiday but what to wear to those gathering thrown by friends?
Why not try a fabulous lace or beaded top you can wear with jeans and heels for a fresh look. Or try a great straight leg knit pant with a beautiful scarf or wrap. Accessorizing can change your whole look from everyday to something special with glitzy earrings or a powerful patterned tight.
Just remember this holiday season always dress in what makes you feel beautiful and let the parties begin!!!!
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Nutrition Tuneup
Vanessa Houssels, Las Vegas, NV Facilitator
Nutrition Tips for a Healthy Holiday
The beginning of the feasting season has officially arrived and the party invitations have begun to trickle in. For most of us this means an excessive amount of cookies, pie, alcoholic beverages and just way to much turkey with all of the trimmings. The holidays can be a wonderful time to reconnect with family and friends but if we aren’t careful this blissful time of year can end up packing on not only additional stress but also unwanted extra pounds.
The average American gains between 1-10 pounds over the holiday season....ouchh! This does not have to be a statistic that applies to you. While this may not be the best time of year to try and lose weight, you can certainly maintain your current weight. The best way to avoid both stress and weight gain is to plan ahead.
I have put together the following 10 healthy tips for the best guilt-free holiday ever.
- Just Breathe - This time of year we almost always over schedule, over spend and overeat and we end up stressed and not enjoying the real meaning of the holidays. Set your alarm on your phone to remind yourself to just breathe. My alarm on my iPhone goes off everyday at 1:00 pm. No matter what I am doing I stop and take five slow deep breaths in and five slow deep breaths out. Works like a charm.
- Never arrive at a holiday party hungry - Make sure that you eat a light meal before you arrive. Apple slices with a bit of nut butter is a great choice. So often people will skip a meal before attending an event to “save their calories for the good stuff” but this almost always ends in them consuming many more calories because they are absolutely famished by the time the party arrives.
- Drink plenty of water - Alcohol is particularly dehydrating. A good rule of thumb is for each glass of wine or beer that you consume, drink a glass of water. This will also cut down on the amount of calories that would be consumed if you were only drinking the bubbly.
- Be a social butterfly - The more you work the room with your charm and charisma the less time you have to overly indulge in the cheese tray.
- Eat your fruits and vegetables - Not only are they loaded with immune boosting Phytochemicals, vitamins, and minerals, but they are also very low in calories. The more fiber rich fruits and veggies you consume the less room you’ll have for the high fat empty calorie treats.
- Always offer to bring a favorite healthy dish to a holiday gathering - This is the easiest way to stay on a healthy course nutritionally speaking during the holidays. A big beautiful salad loaded with lots of veggies and legumes is a simple dish that everyone will enjoy.
- Leave the pie at the party – It’s great to enjoy a delicious dessert during the holidays but if you take home every doggy bag that is offered, you will quickly put on the freshman 15.
- Lighten up your favorite holiday recipes - One easy tip is to leave out the oil. Try applesauce or ground flaxseed with water in place of oil in your favorite recipes. An egg can be replaced with ground flaxseed and water as well. If you Google “healthy food substitutions” on the internet you will be amazed at how much fat and empty calories that you can remove from your favorite recipes without sacrificing taste!
- Use smaller plates - Our plates size has more than doubled in the last 50 years and so have our waistlines!
- Take a hike - Enjoy an evening stroll with your family and friends after a big holiday meal. This will not only help you shed the extra calories that you consumed at dinner but also allow for spending quality time with your loved ones as well as de-stress from the days activities.
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Recipe Tuneup
Carly Maxwell, Grants Pass, OR Facilitator
With the holidays coming there is a lot of pressure and people are unpredictable. Giving to others is a great way to lend a hand. A simple smile can go miles and miles. We can all make a difference one smile at a time. Truly one of Gods greatest gifts is the ability to LOVE! Happy Thanksgiving!!!
Sweet Potato Casserole
Ingredients:
1lb sweet potatoes peeled and quartered
1/2 c. Water
1/4 c. Brown rice syrup or agave nectar
2tsp orange extract
Dash of cinnamon
1 c. Walnuts chopped or ground.
Directions:
- Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Place sweet potatoes in a greased casserole dish. Put all other ingredients into a small bowl and mix.
- Pour mixture over sweet potatoes and bake for 35 min or until fork tender!
Bonus Recipe from Loren Slocum:
Sweet and Fiery Polenta Fries
Ingredients:
1 tsp sugar
1/4 tsp salt
1/4 tsp chili powder
dash cayenne pepper
1/2 16 oz. tube cooked polenta
2 tsp finely chopped red bell pepper
1 tsp chopped basil or flat-leaf parsley
Directions:
- In a bowl, combine sugar, salt, cumin, chili powder and cayenne, set aside
- Cut each half of the polenta lengthwise into a total of 6 thin slices
- Toss polenta strips with flour to coat, shake off excess flour and heat in a greased non-stick skillet for 7 minutes until golden brown.
- Drain polenta fries with paper towels and toss fries with sugar mixture.
- Sprinkle with bell pepper, basil and parsley.
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Inspirational Woman of the Month
Carrie Kish, Valencia, CA Facilitator
Mother Teresa
No matter their politics or religion, most people recognize Mother Teresa as a great woman. Her life and her work celebrate the simple joy of loving, the greatness and dignity of all people and the value of doing little things faithfully and with love. She inspires me in so many ways, but most notably by being a leader in the world who affected change with one small action at time. The legacy she leaves us is the knowledge that small things matter and that everyone has something to contribute. Everyone.
Mother Teresa once said, “Do not wait for leaders. Do it alone, person to person.” What she may not recognize, in her humility, is that this is actually true leadership. And this is the kind of leader that Mother Teresa was. This reminds me to
let go of the details and simply do the work that is in front of me now. She also told us, “We cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.” She reminds us that a smile heals and it is ours to give. Smile at someone today.
She reminds us to love our neighbors, really. For many of us, that means getting to know our neighbors. And, with the holidays approaching, I also like to remember that Mother Teresa said, “If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one.” It is a small act of kindness and humanity and it is something tangible that we can all do.
Leadership in the Lady’s Room
by Carrie Kish
I was called to leadership in the lady’s room today. There was a long line, which isn’t an unusual phenomenon, and there were two stalls that nobody was using. I assumed, like everyone else, that there was something wrong with those stalls.
But nobody had looked in them since I had entered. The line continued to move with everyone simply ignoring those stalls. Well, I decided to look. And, you know what? There was absolutely nothing wrong with either one. They were just empty. So, I announced it to the women waiting and we got the line moving.
What else in our lives do we just assume is off limits or unavailable? What else do we simply ignore and do like others are doing? Why don’t we check? Sometimes, it’s because we are lazy. Sometimes, it’s because we’re afraid of what we’ll find. We don’t want to see what we imagine might be there. Sometimes, we are afraid of offending others. We assume that they must have investigated that option already and we don’t want to insult them or embarrass them by suggesting a rather obvious solution. Sometimes, we might be afraid to embarrass ourselves. We don’t want to stand out or to make a scene. And, sometimes, we are afraid of letting go of our current position (like losing our place in line) because we don’t know if we’ll be able to get it back. We want to be able to secure our new position without letting go of the old one first. And the last lesson, for me today, is that necessity is the mother of invention. When you feel some urgency (if you get my meaning),
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